The Unhappiness Feeling
We don’t get all that we want in our life; some we get while certain others we don’t. Life is full of such situation. In order to deal with them effectively, you must take greater responsibility for your life and the outcomes.
Confront the negative aspect that seems to be keeping you down. This is especially true when dealing with relationships. In a relationship or even in its breakup, there are so many emotion and feelings that one deals with.
There could be many reasons for the sad feeling in a relationship. Some of them are discussed here to help you figure out what is going wrong.
Envy/ jealousy – we often tend to feel that the other person is not giving much time to pamper us and thus don’t pay attention to the other person’s need. This behavior is self – defeating in itself. Due to the jealousy we do not remember to rejoice the success and accomplishments of the partner and hence miss the time one could spend together and happiness that they could share.
Take out time – for a good relationship you are required to have your priorities clear, don’t hurry up to click. At the initial stage itself, take out time to understand each others emotions and decide on the adjustment to make by both of you.
Taking Responsibility – realize that we can minimize our unhappiness by making personal responsibility and efforts to overcome them. Life isn’t bed of roses so the best thing is not to complain over it and blame others but rather own up to your failures while growing up and learning from it.
Overcoming the obstacles – realize that the unhappiness is caused by some obstacles or gap and the only way to come out of it make a choice to overcome.
Being perfect – It is impossible for any individual to be competent in every endeavor and an individual who feels one must be is doomed to a sense of failure. Stop fretting and instead striving to beat others, simply enjoy the activity itself.
Self esteem – “…Count your night by stars not shadows; count your life by smile not tears.” Have a high self esteem; for that be aware of your good qualities and accomplishments. Don’t show anxious over concern about any problem area, instead work towards correcting them.
Self efficacy – recognize your capacity or power to produce a desired effect. You have the ability to attain any thing that you wish.
Negativism – Characterized by habitual skepticism and a disagreeable tendency to deny or oppose or resist suggestions or commands. It only makes us feel worse. What you focus on, good or bad, are based upon the choices you make.
Be reasonable – Remove the distorted perceptions. Happiness in your life is the result of your own choices. Process information in a way that serves your need. Don’t expect others to change or try to change external factors. The one that can be changed by you is your own self which would in return have an impact on your environment; and you will notice the desirable changes there by positively changing your own self.
Meaningful feelings – follow your heart to seek happiness and put some meaning in your life.
The unhappiness feeling will vanish with your high spirited self and a fulfilling relationship. Change yourself to match the situation you are in and at time change the situation to match your needs. Influencing your life is in your hand.